Are soulmates real and the truth behind them. Do you believe that there's someone out there for everyone? By "someone", we mean one person specifically; the belief that each and every person has a perfect match somewhere out there, waiting to be brought together by fate or destiny. This is the concept of the soulmate, and it's a popular notion among hopeless romantics everywhere: if you struggle with relationships, you might be inclined to believe that it's simply because you haven't found "the one" yet, and once you do you'll be on your way to that perfect fairy tale ending. #Soulmate #TheOne #TrueLove Music: https://www.youtube.com/audiolibrary/music Summary: If fairy tales, popular love songs, and early 2000’s romantic comedies are to be believed, your perfect match is out there somewhere in the world, waiting to be discovered. People have been led to believe that the secret to a happy, healthy and lasting relationship is simply a matter of finding the right person, and once you do, everything will just sort of “click”. According to data collected from a Marist poll, around 73 percent of Americans said that they believe that soulmates exist. But is there any truth behind this belief? Well, sorry to burst your bubble, hopeless romantics, but according to many experts, thinking of relationships as two puzzle pieces waiting to be fit together is not only reductive, but also potentially harmful to your love life as a whole. The idea of the soulmate and the hope of finding “the one” is what relationship expert Gery Karantzas refers to as the “destiny relationship mindset” and warns us about the dangers of placing unrealistic expectations on a hypothetical romantic partner. According to Karantzas, people who believe in the destiny mindset when it comes to romance have a tendency to hold potential partners to standards based on their own idealized version of what “the one” should be; this leads to being less receptive to romantic connections when the other person inevitably does not align with these unrealistic expectations. In other words, believers in the destiny mindset won’t be satisfied with their love life until they find “the one”, shooting down any real opportunities to form a meaningful romantic connection because of the rigid criteria they’ve created for themselves regarding what they think “the one” should look, act, or be like. So what’s the takeaway from this information? Are we saying that true love is a myth and you’re destined to a lifetime of loneliness? Of course not! Just because your soulmate isn’t actually out there waiting for you to bump into them, that doesn’t mean that you can’t still find true love and become part of a happy and healthy relationship. But by holding out until you find someone who ticks off all the boxes on your romantic checklist, you’re probably only setting yourself up for a lot of disappointment and lackluster dates. In 1998, researcher C. Raymond Knee set out to study the impact of what the notion of the soulmate has on people who believe in it, as well as the ways in which it affects the relationships that these people form. In his research, Knee outlined two particular schools of thought regarding love and relationships, using them as two points to compare and contrast in his studies. The first is the belief in “romantic destiny”: this is the belief in the soulmate, that certain people are destined to be with each other and when they get together things will “just work out” immediately. The second school of thought highlighted by Knee is the concept of “relationship growth”: this is the belief that claims that happy relationships are not found, but rather cultivated; claiming that happy couples develop their relationships through hard work, communication and cooperation over time. According to Knee’s research: when it comes to potential partners, people who believe in romantic destiny put the most value in initial signs of compatibility. Since these people hold the belief that relationships are simply “meant to be”, they believe that two people will either “click” in an instant or move on. Because of this, people who believe in romantic destiny will be very happy in relationships at first, but over time that happiness might start to fade as problems arise and the relationship no longer lines up with the fairy tale version that's in that person's head. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Subscribe to Bestie : https://goo.gl/tUqro6 ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Our Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bestieinc/ ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Medical Disclaimer: https://pastebin.com/xLmigD6i Website: www.bestie.com